Growing older is an experience we all share and many of us worry about. As we age, we face many changes and many sources of stress we are not as strong as we used to be, illness is more of a problem, children move away from home, people we love die, we may become lonely, and eventually we must give up our jobs and retire. Coping with all these changes is difficult, but it can be done. The keys to coping include your long-term lifestyle, your ability to expect and plan for change, the strength of your relationships with surviving family and friends, and your willingness to stay interested in and involved with life.

Dealing with physical changes

• Keep a positive attitude. Remember that slowing down does not mean you have to come to a complete stop. Chances are you will still be able to do almost all the things you used to; you may just need to take a little more time and learn to pace yourself.
• See your family doctor regularly. He/she can, then, deal with any changes or symptoms that require medical attention.

Dealing with bereavement

• Do not deny your feelings. Losing someone to death is like being wounded, and you need to heal. If you do not allow yourself to go through the grieving process, you are only storing up problems for a delayed reaction later on.
• Remember and talk about the deceased person. He/she was an important part of your life. Although your grief will pass, your memories will always stay with you.
• Look to your family and friends for support. They can help you through the grieving period and help you establish a new life afterwards.

Dealing with loneliness

• Stay active, and look for new social contacts. Most communities have a number of programs which can help replace the support that used to be provided by family and life-long friends. These programs provide older people with the chance to try new activities and make new friends.
• Spend time with grandchildren and great-nieces and nephews. Volunteer to help part-time in a local school or day-care centre. Very young children can brighten up your life with their enthusiasm and energy.
• Learn to recognize and deal with the signs of depression. Loss of appetite and weight, inability to sleep, loss of energy and motivation, and thoughts of suicide are all signs of depression. Your family doctor can refer you to a mental health professional for treatment.

Dealing with retirement

• Make a list of your abilities and skills. The skills and experience you have gained from a lifetime of work may help you succeed in a small business or do valuable volunteer work for a favourite charity.
• Renew your interest in the hobbies and activities you enjoy. You now have time to play – enjoy!

This article provides general information only. The information provided is not a substitute for professional advice. If you feel that you may need advice, please consult a qualified health care professional.  For further information please visit our web site at www.cmha-east.on.ca.